Timing is underrated

If I've learnt anything this past year, it's that sometimes, it's all about timing. (That, and being happy is more important than anything, but glimpses of happiness in a tsunami of tears does not happiness make. But that's a story for another time.)

But yes, back to timing. In the grand scheme of things, I think we fail to give timing the consideration it deserves.

This past year I've reflected on the year before, analysed every pitfall, every joy, trying to find reasons for everything that has happened. Then I realised I was going crazy, and that I was crazy trying to gain control over something I had absolutely no control over - time, or the manipulation of it in someone else's life.

Sometimes, it's all about timing. You may think you've found the right job, but it seems the right job doesn't want you. You think you've found the love of your life, but the love of your life only wants you after you're gone. You think you've found someone who's so totally in-sync with you it HAS to be right - but it isn't, because that person's tied up with someone else at the moment.

If only we loved each other at the same time.

That said, I'm going to do the cliched thing and say (to you, my friends who are wondering what the hell is going on with your lives the same way I was) that if the time isn't right, it wouldn't have worked out anyway. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. C'est la vie. Time waits for no man, but patience is a virtue. Overdosed on cliches yet? Good, cuz I'm out, and they were starting to not make sense anymore.

What inspired me to write this was actually a good friend who, when asked why her decision was changed from a "not yet" to a "yes", said: "because it felt like the time was right".

That's the best damned answer I've heard in a long time. And you know what? Even though the situation hasn't changed, and she's gone down the path she might've anyway, she's more at peace taking the leap, and she's happy. That's most important.

(Oh. Damn. Looks like I've written myself into a circle and wound up right back at the importance of being happy.)

Anyways, I'm not saying that everything else outside timing isn't important, but really, if it isn't time, don't rush it.* And if it is, give it a shot. What have you got to lose, anyway?

Ps/ And for heaven's sakes, if you're already in something, make sure you're in it in real time. Don't live in the past, don't fret about the future, or start to appreciate what you have only after it's gone. Something stopping you? Get rid of it. Worried about something? Work it out. There's only so few things worse than living in regret.

*Geez, it's hard to get un-stuck from a point when you're trying to write about something without revealing what it is. Try it.