OH.

"And Ingrid was very - patient. Overly patient. Willing to put up with odd behavior, in the hope that some day I would shape up and marry her martyred ass. And when someone is that patient, you have to feel grateful, and then you want to hurt them. Does that make any sense?"

"I guess. I mean no, not to me, but I don't think that way."

He sighs. "It's very charming of you to be ignorant of the twisted logic of most relationships. Trust me. When we met I was wrecked, blasted and damned, and I am slowly pulling myself together because I can see that you are a human being and I would like to be one too. I have been trying to do it without you noticing because I haven't figured out that all pretense is useless between us."