sometimes, i think the most dangerous/hurtful/spiteful thing one could do to anyone during a fight is to go to the extremes. (besides outright hitting, yelling and name calling)
what i mean by extremes is that well... sometimes when u're not happy with someone else its very easy to just see all the faults in the other person. how she's always so selfish, how he's always so snobbish, how she's always such a nagger. somehow all the little good stuff, like how he let you have the first bite of his steak, how she massaged your aching back, how he opens the car door sometimes, just go flying out the window like it never happened.
and it tends to go flying out the window when you need to remember it the most, like during a fight.
i am guilty of it too i must confess. when i'm all riled up it so easy, so so easy to forget that hey, this other person is not as bad as i've made him/her out to be.
until i was on the receiving end of the extremes.
and i tell ya, it ain't pretty. somehow when the other person uses an extreme on you like say, you NEVER EVER care about how i feel, it really stings. because u've dedicated your whole life to caring for the other person, and in one little neat accusatory sentence all that effort has been wiped out, just like that.
and you just feel like the most rotten person in the world.
like i said i've been guilty of that in my life as well. a possible solution? i find that finding the middle ground is best. swapping a NEVER EVER with a SOMETIMES is a helluva lot more thoughtful, not to mention, probably closer to the truth.
nobody's perfect. that doesn't mean that any one person is just pure evil, either.